If you’ve ever wondered how to make analingus feel good for both partners, you’re in the right place. This guide breaks down the basics, from consent to clean‑up, so you can try it without worries.
First thing: talk about it. Ask your partner what they like and set clear limits. A quick check‑in removes guesswork and builds trust.
Hygiene matters most. A warm shower, gentle anal cleansing, and a fresh condom or dental dam keep things clean and reduce infection risk. Many people use a flavored condom for comfort and taste.
Lubrication helps a lot. A water‑based lube makes the skin glide smoothly and prevents irritation. Apply a small amount on the tongue and around the opening before you start.
If you’re new, start slow. Light kisses around the anal rim get the area accustomed to sensation. Gradually increase pressure as you both feel more relaxed.
One‑handed approach works well: use a finger to apply gentle pressure while your mouth explores. This gives you more control over depth and speed.
Try the “spoon” position. Both partners lie on their side, with the receiving partner’s back against the giver’s front. This angle opens the anus and lets the giver use both hands and mouth easily.
For a more upright feel, the receiving partner can sit on the edge of a chair while the giver kneels in front. This position lets the giver see the area and adjust pressure precisely.
Mix up the motions. Light flicks, slow circles, and soft suction each create a different sensation. Pay attention to your partner’s reactions and adapt.
After the session, clean up together. Warm water and mild soap remove any residue. A quick cuddle or kiss reinforces the connection and makes the experience feel caring.
London offers discreet adult spaces where you can explore with privacy. Some boutique sex‑positive clubs have dedicated rooms for oral play, and many therapists offer professional guidance on safe techniques.
Remember, consent, communication, and cleanliness are the three pillars of good analingus. Keep them in mind, try the tips above, and you’ll discover a new level of intimacy without the stress.